๐๐ฐ๐ต ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ฏ๐จ ๐ข๐จ๐ฐ, ๐ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ค๐ฆ๐ช๐ท๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ข ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ข๐ณ๐ต-๐ธ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ค๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ต๐ต๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ข๐ต ๐ฉ๐ช๐จ๐ฉ๐ญ๐ช๐จ๐ฉ๐ต๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ด๐ฐ๐ฎ๐ฆ๐ต๐ฉ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ธ๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ง๐ต๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐ฉ๐ข๐ท๐ฆ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ข๐ญ ๐ธ๐ช๐ต๐ฉ: ๐จ๐ถ๐ช๐ญ๐ต. ๐๐ฆ๐ค๐ข๐ถ๐ด๐ฆ ๐จ๐ถ๐ช๐ญ๐ต ๐ข๐ง๐ง๐ฆ๐ค๐ต๐ด ๐ข๐ญ๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ถ๐ด, ๐ ๐ง๐ฆ๐ญ๐ต ๐ช๐ต ๐ธ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ญ๐ฅ ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฑ ๐ฎ๐ข๐ฏ๐บ ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ฐ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ฆ ๐ช๐ง ๐ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ฑ๐ญ๐ช๐ฆ๐ฅ ๐ต๐ฐ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ญ๐ฆ๐ต๐ต๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ฐ๐ฑ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ญ๐บ, ๐ธ๐ช๐ต๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ต ๐ฅ๐ช๐ด๐ค๐ญ๐ฐ๐ด๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ช๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ต๐ช๐ต๐บ ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ด๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐ณ.
Dear Michael Laitman,
My name is โฆ and I live in Russia. I am an avid listener of your talks and never miss a show. I owe it all to my beloved wife, with whom I lived as one soul for twenty-eight years. We couldnโt have children, so we adopted a boy and raised him with great love, especially my wife. She loved him dearly.
When the coronavirus pandemic started, my wife and I were very careful. We worked from home, listened to your talks, and agreed with your every word. Our son, however, treated the virus like a challenge or an invitation. He would walk out and scoff at our concerns. He wouldnโt wear a mask. We couldnโt explain to him anything from your words; he simply wouldnโt listen. As a result, he got Covid and infected us, as well. I handled the virus quite easily but my wife didnโt; she passed away.
Since then, I havenโt been able to look at my son. I hate him. I understand that itโs impossible to bring my wife back, but I donโt want to live with this hatred for my son. Moreover, he, too, feels guilty; I am aware of it, but I canโt help it. I look at him, I turn my eyes away, and I can barely restrain myself from exploding on him. I have no love within me, none at all! Dear Michael, how do I bring my love back? What should I do? How do I forgive my son? I donโt know what to do. Please help me.
As distressing as this tragedy is, and perhaps because it is so, I hope this story will help us understand how nature works and that in truth, this heartbreak is no oneโs fault. It is no oneโs fault because just as the father cannot help but hate his son, his son could not help but be reckless. We donโt own our thoughts; they emerge in us from the same place where everything emerges. Call it โnature,โ โreality,โ โGod,โ or what have you, but we do not know what we will think one second from now, let alone what we will do.
I know this isnโt easy. I, too, have plenty of reasons for anger. But when you study the wisdom of Kabbalah, you come to see that everything has a purpose: to lead you to reveal lifeโs deepest, most fundamental force, the source of everything, the Creator of all things. And not only that, you find that its goal is to make us like it, exactly like it. When you discover that creative force, you realize that it is nothing but pure goodness. Its goal, therefore, is to make you, me, and all of humanity just as good as itself.
When you begin to become like the Creator, even if a little bit, you understand why things happen the way they do. Until you become like it, it is impossible to justify your son, or the Creator for your tragedy.
The Creator leads the world to goodness through two reins: pleasure and pain. However, its direction, as just said, is only oneโto make you like it: a complete giver. The worst cataclysms in human history, unfolded as they did at the hands of that same, benevolent force, and for the purpose of making us benevolent, as well. And if they unfolded painfully, it is only a sign that we must increase our efforts to become like it, so it wouldnโt have to rush us through the rein of pain.
The coronavirus, too, comes from that same source, and its aim is the same: to make us good, loving, and giving. Right now, you probably cannot love your son. But when you connect to the Creator and begin to become like it, you will find within you such profound love for your son and for all of creation that you never knew existed. You will love him more than ever, and more than you thought possible.
Therefore, my friend, donโt look back and donโt waste energy or time on sulking over the past. It will only bring you more pain. Instead, look up, and go find the Creator in your life. Look for people like you, who want to know the Creator of life, the source of everything, and with them, you are certain to succeed.
Best of luck,
Michael
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